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Hi friend,

The new MW Merch drop launches this Friday!

12 midday CT/6pm UK.

On sale for 6 days only, then they're gone!

We're printing in the US, UK and Australia this time, so shipping should be a lot cheaper - thank you for your feedback there <3

I’ll send you an email with all the information on Friday.

I really hope you love this stuff - I worked so hard on it and I adore all of these designs.

I think it’s a lie too.

One of the most common questions that got asked on stage in Australia was “How do I give myself credit for my accomplishments in life? Why do I never feel finished or satisfied with a job well done?”

This is another Curse Of Competence.

If you’re good at things, and have high standards, you assume that you should always do well.

Which means that success is not a cause for celebration but the minimum level of reasonable performance.

Anything less than victory would be a failure, and victory itself becomes nothing more than acceptable.

Congratulations, you might be very successful.

You also might be very miserable.

I shouldn’t say congratulations though. That makes it sound as if you chose it.

A few things to keep in mind:

You are wired this way for a reason.

Your ancestors are made up of the most goal-driven, insecure overachievers from history.

You could not have been any other way.

Your brain does not care about you feeling good, it only cares about you being successful.

In the past, success meant accumulating food and resources, now it means accumulating money and accomplishments.

The number of ways your success-seeking system can be hijacked is greater than ever. It’s not your fault.

There are no solutions, only tradeoffs.

You don’t get to live the comfortable life with recognition and progress AND ALSO switch off from that stuff whenever you want.

What, you think you could be obsessive and driven in one area of your life but be able to create a hard boundary where it doesn’t bleed over into everything else?

That’s just not the way it works.

You say “fuck your feelings, just work harder” then complain when you achieve but don’t feel anything.

That is cause and effect happening in front of you.

The very fuel you used to get you here robs you of the ability to enjoy the act of arriving.

Look….

Give yourself a break.

You were born into a world you didn’t choose, maladapted for the mind you have, which you also didn’t choose, in an environment replete with games designed to hijack your drive and attention 24 hours a day.

I’m impressed you even made it to breakfast today.

MODERN WISDOM

I do a podcast where I pretend to have a British accent.
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This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Darby Saxbe - dad’s brains, hormones and behaviour all change when they care for their babies and everyone is furious about the research. This is so spicy and fascinating. Listen now on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

Thursday.
Jett Franzen - why almost no one gets the life they want. How most people use their loneliness as an excuse to not act. How extreme isolation could be your greatest advantage.

Saturday.
Bill Thompson - special forces & intelligence communications expert on the new world of surveillance technology, how everything you do is tracked and how to keep yourself safe.

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

1.
​Men don’t know when women orgasm.

Vice asked their audience 2 important questions:

Straight men, the last time you had sex with a woman, did she orgasm?

Women, the last time you had sex with a straight man, did you orgasm?⁠

⁠65% of straight men said they gave the last woman they slept with an orgasm…

But only 40% of women reported orgasming the last time they had sex with a man.

2.
​Having kids is neuroprotective.

“Men with two children had an estimated brain age that was 0.6 years younger than their childless peers had, and for men with three children, it was 0.7 years younger.

That’s similar to the brain benefit associated with exercising 2.5 hours a week.” — Rob Henderson

3.
​We avoid honesty, even when we know comfort is costing us more.

“The small thing you didn't say six months ago has been collecting interest ever since.

By the time resentment shows up fully formed, most people have forgotten what the original conversation even was.” — Mark Manson

LIFE HACK

Get your bloodwork done.

You need to know what’s happening inside of your body.

Function Health does a single test that allows you to check everything including your cortisol levels, heart health, testosterone and even screens for 50 types of cancer.

It’s the most comprehensive, simple and quick way to get bloodwork done.

Function even offers concierge blood draws so you can skip the lab visit and they’ll come to you.‍ Schedule directly with them and you don't even have to leave the house any more.

​Get the exact same blood panel I get for $365 with an additional $25 discount.​
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Big love,
Chris x

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