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Hi friend,

I’m looking for people to get involved at my live shows this October in the UK & Ireland 🚀

I want to hear your best stories for me to react to, live on-stage.

If you’re coming to see me on tour and want to tell me about your worst first date, a problem you’re dealing with or an unlikely life hack that more people need to know about, head to https://chriswilliamson.live/stories and choose the city you’ll be attending. I'll be picking the best ones

I’ve been thinking about the Emotional Overton Window.

The classic Overton Window describes the range of ideas, policies, and public speech that society finds acceptable at any given time.

Ideas “inside” the window are safe for politicians to support, while ideas outside it are considered radical or unthinkable.

This window moves, grows, or shrinks as public values change.

I think there’s an equivalent with what society deems acceptable from an emotional-exposure standpoint.

The modern world says it’s desperate for authenticity, that it wants to see people be real and raw… but only as long as it’s within this Emotional Overton Window. Outside of that it becomes uncontrolled and uncomfortable.

Society claims to want sincerity, but what we actually reward is controlled disclosure.

Someone saying, “I’ve had a brutal year and I’m struggling” is vulnerable.

Someone crying briefly during an interview can be moving.

Someone sobbing uncontrollably for twenty minutes, screaming at their ex in a restaurant or posting forty Instagram stories at 3am is suddenly unstable, cringe and crashing out.

The strange thing is that the emotion may actually become more authentic as it becomes less controlled, but our sympathy for the person suffering often decreases.

It’s like an inverted-U of emotional authenticity - too little emotion and you seem cold, fake or guarded. A little more and you seem honest, open and vulnerable. Keep going and eventually you cross some invisible threshold where openness becomes oversharing, vulnerability becomes neediness and authenticity becomes dysregulation.

You must reveal enough mess to seem human, but retain enough command to reassure everyone that you’re still safe to be around.

In this way, you could see the Emotional Overton Window as the acceptable distance between emotional repression and emotional incontinence.

And paradoxically, we become least compassionate precisely when someone’s distress becomes most genuine.

Reality says it wants disclosure but only tolerates emotionally believable self-presentation.

This is why “just be yourself” is incomplete advice.

We want people to be unfiltered, provided they’ve privately edited themselves first.

Perhaps a good definition of intimacy is the permission to inconvenience someone with your inner life.

My idea of Reverse Charisma says that some people are unusually good company because they can tolerate more of your strange, dark, shameful reality without forcing you to edit yourself.

Similarly, your closest relationships should have a much wider Emotional Overton Window than the general public for the same reason.

Your friends must be able to handle more of you at your most extreme without needing the intensity to be titrated into an acceptable dosage.

The closest people in your life then, are the ones around whom your Emotional Overton Window is the widest.

MODERN WISDOM

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This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Dr David Sinclair - the world’s first age-reversal study is here. Can humans live to 150+? What are the best strategies for maximising your healthspan? What is the newest research around intermittent fasting? Listen now on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

Thursday.
Kanika Batra - I spoke to a diagnosed sociopath about what life inside of her head is like. What is the worst thing she’s ever done to someone? Would she kill someone if she could get away with it?

Saturday.
Rabbit Hole 5 - Jimmy Carr, George Mack & Harry Dry join me to talk British culture, Victorian slang words, creativity and Cristiano Ronaldo. Very fun.

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

1.
​Born in the USA.

Despite being just 4% of the global population, Americans made up nearly 50% of the world’s new millionaires in 2025. — h/t Rob Henderson

2.
​Original thinking is hard, shouting BS is not.

“People hardly ever make use of the freedom which they have, for example, freedom of thought; instead they demand freedom of speech as compensation.” — Kierkegaard

3.
​In a world of constant pursuit, saying “I’m satisfied” is a rebellion.

"In our culture, not-doing is very undervalued.

It's as if one has to always be doing something in order to justify one's existence.

But such compulsive doing is an avoidance of being, literally, one's true nature." —Adyashanti

LIFE HACK

A major cheat code for life.

You really can just wake up one day and say "that's enough of that" and change direction completely. — Blake Burge
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Big love,
Chris x

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PS
I appreciate all your support around the Rogan episode. And the Jocko and Hunter Biden Mostly Wise episodes. I’m having so much fun with these group pods, they’re exactly what the world needs right now. Thank you for having faith in me 💜