3MM: Mindfulness, Tax & Marriage


3 MINUTE MONDAY

Hi friend,

Tour has been so good. London was absolutely insane last week, thank you to everyone who's come out and made these shows so special <3

“Living an examined life is just one insult after another, you have to maintain a sense of humour.
Your mind has absolutely no shame, it will think anything.
The person you meet when you look in the mirror is not one person.
It’s a congress of selves, and many of them are total assholes.
And ultimately you can’t take it personally, you didn’t create yourself, or your culture, or your consciousness.
You find yourself here in this circumstance, and the question is; what can you do next; what is possible given the kind of mind you have?
Morally, psychologically and existentially we have a navigation problem, and there are tools we can put in-hand to be a much wiser and happier pilot.” — Sam Harris

This describes a kind of Internal Multiple Personality Disorder which we all feel.

A selection of Avengers assemble inside of us, except more than 50% of them are villains.

The best versions of us so often seem to be drowned out by the judgemental, harsh, emotional, juvenile voices which cause us to behave and think in a way that aren’t in our interests.

Your moment to moment experience of the world is largely determined by the story you tell yourself about it.

And if our narrator happens to be a total dick most of the time, is it any surprise that we struggle to find happiness?

Sam summarises it nicely…

“Wisdom is a matter of making your mind your friend.”

Honestly, how can any of us truly say we are wise if our mind is out of control?

If you’re so smart, and so wise, then why aren’t you happy?

MODERN WISDOM

I do a podcast where I pretend to have a British accent.
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This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Rabbit Hole 6 - George Mack, Shaan Puri & Jack Butcher discuss art, Britain vs America, whether we’re all getting rich off crypto and much more. So fun. Listen now on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

Thursday.
Rob Kurzban - 2+ hours breaking down 40+ human emotions from an evolutionary lens. Why do they exist, what is their purpose. Straight money.

Saturday.
Dan + Shay - the duo whose song convinced me to move to America in 2019 do multiple live performances and talk about confidence, teamwork and optimal Dominos orders.

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

1.
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The median American man now gets married for the first time at 30.8.

Highest since the census started tracking it in 1890

1956: 22.5

2025: 30.8 — Jake Kozloski

2.
​Texas vs UK taxation.

“If a couple earns £300,000 between them ...

… in the UK, they get to keep £182,000

… in Texas, they get to keep £224,400

That's why talent leaves the UK, and why talent goes to Texas.”

3.
​Sometimes Soul Helpers are the opposite.

“You were destined for me. Perhaps as a punishment.” - Dostoyevsky

LIFE HACK

Advice for guys.

If she can't decide where she wants to eat, tell her you've decided, but it's a surprise.

Give her one chance to guess where you're going, whatever she says, say yes and go with it.

99% of the time it's where she really wants to go.
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Big love,
Chris x

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