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3MM: Gastric Emotions, Red Flags & Astrology
3 MINUTE MONDAYHi friend, The Gastric Band Surgery of Being Busy. After undergoing gastric band surgery, people’s risk of suicide goes up. That’s perhaps unsurprising - gastric band surgery is a big deal and can sometimes have complications, infections and painful outcomes. But one of the unseen reasons for the increased suicide risk is actually due to the surgery going right, not it going wrong. Many patients used food as a way to deal with issues in their lives like emotional challenges, loneliness and anxiety. After having their stomachs shrunk, the ability to use food as a comforting crutch has been removed, but the emotional challenges still remain. So the coping mechanism has been taken away, forcing patients to face their issues without a release-valve. I think there is an equivalent dynamic happening when you try to elevate your life to take your sense of self worth from things other than your work and level of busyness. Let’s say that in the past you used busyness and chaos as a way to distract yourself from feeling unwanted emotions. It meant you didn’t need to reflect on your decisions or sit in discomfort. You’re moving so quickly that you never fully connect with the difficult things that are happening in your life. Lost relationships, disconnected friends, poor decisions and accumulated negative character traits are all swept away by a manic workrate so quickly that you don’t even have time to consider them. Eventually, you realise that chaotic busyness is not your highest calling in life, maybe you value different things now, maybe you have outgrown that phase of your life, maybe you realise that busyness for busyness’s sake is detaching you from connecting to your existence. So what happens when this coping mechanism gets taken away? You are forced to face your issues without the highly distracting release-valve that you’re used to. The busyness-anaesthetic you used to previously rely on has now been removed, leaving you with two choices:
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— The School Of Life 2. “Tobias Edwards and colleagues conducted a study to discover which Americans are most likely to believe in astrology. They analysed data from over 8,500 Americans and discovered that previously suggested explanations—such as spirituality, religious beliefs, or political orientation—played surprisingly minor roles in astrological belief. The single strongest predictor of belief in astrology is intelligence, with more intelligent people being less likely to believe in it. They also find that people with left-wing views are more likely to believe in it. Those with fewer years of formal education showed stronger tendencies to endorse astrology’s scientific legitimacy. Measures of religiosity and spirituality were unrelated to belief in astrology.” — PsyPost 3. Americans spent nearly 1.5 hours less outside their homes in 2023 than they did in 2003. LIFE HACKTongkat Ali. An evidence-based, natural testosterone booster. I first heard about it from Dr Andrew Huberman and the studies behind this are really impressive. Momentous have the only Tongkat Ali on the planet certified for olympic athletes to take. Plus there’s a 30 day money-back guarantee in case you don’t like it. And international shipping. Get 35% off your first subscription. Try Momentous Tongkat Ali risk-free. Big love, Try my productivity drink Neutonic. PS |
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3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, I’ve been thinking about how to achieve a Realistic Path To Enlightenment. As much as moving to a cave in the woods and spending a decade in silent retreat might be great for your spirit, it’s not going to be doable by pretty much anyone. If you’ve meditated enough, you know that you accumulate momentum in mindfulness, kind of like a swell moving underwater. After enough time, there is a force and a power to your ability to drop into the present moment, and...
3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, Post-Content Clarity. This is the best way to work out whether the content you consume is making your life better or worse. You see, there is a problem. While you watch anything, you are distracted by the content itself. Which means you can’t judge how the content impacts you. The creator has designed the content to be compelling and to keep you hooked, because if they didn’t, they’d be beaten by another creator who achieved that more effectively. But just because...
3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, It is a sad fact that it’s more socially acceptable to be your own biggest critic rather than your own biggest cheerleader. This creates a fertile environment for external criticism to make you doubt yourself more than it should. Here are some strategies you may have used to try and avoid the pain of criticism with varying degrees of success: Get bitter and think of any critic as a hater just throwing envy and shade; recite the quote “Don’t take criticism from...