3MM: Feynman, Attraction & The Queen


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Hi friend,

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I came across a love letter Richard Feynman wrote to his wife.

Beware, powerful stuff…

October 17, 1946

D'Arline,

I adore you, sweetheart.

I know how much you like to hear that - but I don't only write it because you like it - I write it because it makes me warm all over inside to write it to you.

It is such a terribly long time since I last wrote to you - almost two years but I know you'll excuse me because you understand how I am, stubborn and realistic; and I thought there was no sense to writing.

But now I know my darling wife that it is right to do what I have delayed in doing, and that I have done so much in the past. I want to tell you I love you. I want to love you. I always will love you.

I find it hard to understand in my mind what it means to love you after you are dead - but I still want to comfort and take care of you - and I want you to love me and care for me. I want to have problems to discuss with you I want to do little projects with you. I never thought until just now that we can do that. What should we do. We started to learn to make clothes together or learn Chinese - or getting a movie projector. Can't I do something now? No. I am alone without you and you were the "idea-woman" and general instigator of all our wild adventures.

When you were sick you worried because you could not give me something that you wanted to and thought I needed. You needn't have worried. Just as I told you then there was no real need because I loved you in so many ways so much. And now it is clearly even more true - you can give me nothing now yet I love you so that you stand in my way of loving anyone else - but I want you to stand there. You, dead, are so much better than anyone else alive.

I know you will assure me that I am foolish and that you want me to have full happiness and don't want to be in my way. I'll bet you are surprised that I don't even have a girlfriend (except you, sweetheart) after two years. But you can't help it, darling, nor can I - I don't understand it, for I have met many girls and very nice ones and I don't want to remain alone - but in two or three meetings they all seem ashes. You only are left to me. You are real.

My darling wife, I do adore you.

I love my wife. My wife is dead.

Rich.

PS Please excuse my not mailing this but I don't know your new address.

MODERN WISDOM

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This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Will Ahmed - why did CrossFit die? What do the best athletes on the planet have in common? How do you overcome grief when it arrives out of nowhere? What does the future of fitness trackers have in store?

Thursday.
Will Storr - a wonderful breakdown of how to tell engaging, persuasive stories from one of the best storytelling writers in the world. Super easy listen, tons of great examples. Fun episode.

Saturday.
Shi Heng Yi - what does a Shaolin monk believe about where happiness comes from? How can we find peace in a chaotic world? How do we work out what we truly want in life?

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

1.
The 15 Most Attractive Hobbies To Women.

Reading
Foreign Languages
Playing Instrument
Cooking
Woodworking
Painting
Writing
Gardening
Swimming
Photography
Astronomy
Hiking
Archery
Blacksmithing
Travelling

2.
The 15 Least Attractive Hobbies To Women.

Comic Books
Cosplay
Debating
Drinking
MTG
Anime
Makeup
Crypto
Cigars
Clubbing
Marijuana
Funko
Arguing Online
Porn
Gambling
Manosphere

3.
It sucks to not be liked, but it sucks more to not be yourself.

"The Queen of England died 18 months ago….

She ruled an entire nation and accumulated more wealth than 99.99% of humans…

And…yet…you haven’t thought about her except for right now.

No matter how big your dreams.

You’re gonna die.

Everyone will move on.

Do what you want." — Alex Hormozi

LIFE HACK

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PS
Massive h/t to Arjun Khemani for finding that Feynman letter. Sorry for the tears.

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