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Hi friend,

Tour the last week has been a madness. I’m in Perth for 18 hours and I’m gutted we have to leave.

Thank you so much to everyone who’s come out to Sydney, Melbourne & Adelaide - Brisbane, NZ & Bali next​!​

I am certain that most capable people don’t believe in themselves enough.

A lack of confidence killed more dreams than a lack of competence ever did.

Self-doubt often seems to be bundled into a package deal alongside potential.

Why?

Is it that capable people are paralysed by high expectations?

Or is competence correlated with rumination and an introspective mind?

Perhaps the greater your capacity, the less accurately you can see your true potential as the end goal is simply so much further away.

I’m unsure on the cause but I’m certain on the symptom: More people are held back by their self-belief than propelled by it.

You can think about confidence as a speed limiter on your system.

You have capacity for more but your self-doubt limits your ability to chase it.

Self-doubt causes you to avoid taking risks which means you move more slowly than your competition.

It encourages you to criticise your performance, even when you do well, which damages your motivation.

It makes you compare yourself to other’s achievements, making you feel inferior by comparison.

Your mind is not helping you here.

Placing insatiable demands on your performance doesn’t drive you to perform better, it just makes you sad at never feeling satisfied, even with a job well done.

MODERN WISDOM

I do a podcast where I pretend to have a British accent.
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This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Roy Baumeister - is there anything good about men? Why is sexual novelty so important? What is happening with the replication crisis around willpower research? So good from the GOAT of psychology research. Listen now on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

Thursday.
Will Guidara - former owner of 11 Park Ave on the wildest stories from running the #1 restaurant in the world.

Saturday.
Chris Bailey - why do some goals feel effortless when others are a nightmare? Why do people fail to achieve goals that they really care about? What does science say about building habits?

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

1.
​Everyone wants to be asked out more.

2,315 people were asked “Do you wish people hit on you more or less?”

92% of men said they wish they were approached more.

There’s a moderate sex difference, but even among women, 69% wished they were hit on more.

Shoot your shot, folks. — William Costello

2.
​What a way to finish.

Nelson Rockefeller, former Vice President of the United States and heir to the Rockefeller family fortune, died in 1979 of a heart attack at age 70, rumored to be caused by an orgasm during intercourse with his secretary, Megan Marshack.

The unusual circumstances surrounding his death caused New York magazine to quip, "Nelson thought he was coming, but he was going".

3.
​Marry the person you can go to war with.

“Don’t marry the person you can have fun with.

Marry the person you can suffer with.

Anyone can love you when life is good.

When everything’s easy.

When the money’s flowing and the smiles come naturally.

That part is simple.

That’s not the test.

Love isn’t proven on the best days.

It’s revealed on the worst ones.

When life hits hard.

When everything feels uncertain.

When the future looks terrifying and you don’t know what comes next.

That’s when you find out who’s really there.” — philosophaire_

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Big love,
Chris x

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PS
Really, thank you so much to everyone in Aus who's come out. It's so sick to see you guys in the flesh <3