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Hi friend,

I’m coming back to the UK & Ireland with a brand new live show.

Edinburgh, Portsmouth, Birmingham, Manchester, Cardiff, Exeter, London, Dublin (Sold Out), Newcastle & Belfast 🚀

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I’ve been thinking about how to achieve a Realistic Path To Enlightenment.

As much as moving to a cave in the woods and spending a decade in silent retreat might be great for your spirit, it’s not going to be doable by pretty much anyone.

If you’ve meditated enough, you know that you accumulate momentum in mindfulness, kind of like a swell moving underwater.

After enough time, there is a force and a power to your ability to drop into the present moment, and sometimes even little waves of genuine, calm insight break above the surface.

But if you’re anything like me, it doesn’t result in an extended, self-perpetuating enlightenment.

It doesn’t even really work on its own where your mindfulness sneaks up on you and you’re in the present moment without realising it.

Moreso, consistent meditation and a focus on mindfulness strengthens the thinking muscle that you use to wrangle your mind to actually exist in the now.

You learn to punctuate your day with instances where your mind finally settles into the moment.

And then it’s gone.

But then you can get it back later in the day.

As far as I can tell, this is the Realistic Path To Enlightenment.

You are never going to become fully blissed out in perpetual non-dual astral realm synchronicity.

But you can string together a few Moments Of Peace so that at least for a few times each day, your mind rests where your feet are.

I always used to think that this was a failure.

If I can achieve mindfulness, but then I lose it, that’s still not persistent enlightenment - so I’ve still failed.

Instead I think it’s smart to reframe the goal.

If you can just have your mind and your feet in the same location 5 or 10 times a day, that’s a good start.

Then maybe you can do it 15 or 20 times.

That seems both attainable and really useful.

Aim for a few Moments Of Peace today.

MODERN WISDOM

I do a podcast where I pretend to have a British accent.
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This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Freya India - deconstructing the crisis of Gen Z girls with the best writer in the world on it. Listen now on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

Thursday.
Rabbit Hole #2 - another hang episode with the boys talking kratom, SBF, WW2, peanuts and like 30 other things. I love these ones. Tune in.

Saturday.
Mercedes Coffman - the keys to elite connection and regulation in your relationship.

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

1.
​Wanna come over? My parents are out.

In the UK, 35% of men aged 20-35 still live with their parents.

In Spain the situation is much worse… Even after excluding students, over 50% of men (and around 40% of women) aged 25-34 are still living with their parents.

2.
​Don’t fall in love with potential.

“If you want to ruin your life, spend it trying to change your spouse’s behaviour.” — Charlie Munger

3.
​Presence is a privilege.

“If your mind is always elsewhere, you’re not really experiencing anything. Nothing is ever real.”

LIFE HACK

Wear Crocs for travelling.

I’m not sorry. They’re the most elite footwear for airports.

Get a dark colour so they’re not easily smudged and they’ll last forever.
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Big love,
Chris x

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PS
Really, this episode on Thursday rules. Make sure you check it.