3 MINUTE MONDAYHi friend, How much should you try to optimise your life? How much should you be thinking about ways to improve? How much should you care about things? For many people, perhaps even most, the answer to all of these questions is “more”. Indeed the world largely belongs to the intense optimisers, not the laissez-faire guy chilling in a hammock who hit snooze 3 times this morning. Telling people to optimise more is a reliable way to improve the lives of most people because most people need to be tightened up, not loosened off, and being more obsessive will tend to deliver better results in worldly success. Most advice is charitably given to people who need to think more carefully, be more deliberate and work harder. The problem is when this message lands with the wrong audience. The perennial perma-optimisers. Then it creates a world where overthinkers are convinced to think even more. These people need loosening off, not tightening up. Given that you read this newsletter, I’m going to guess you fall into this category. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be obsessive and pay attention to detail. The problem arises when you can no longer delineate between the very small number of things that matter enough to obsess over, and *everything else*. Assuming you have a small bucket of pursuits which are important, you’ve probably learned that a very deliberate, effortful, optimised approach is a successful strategy This obsession and addiction begins to bleed into all other areas of your life. Turning off the tap of optimisation is hard and soon the entire map is flooded with the same desire to always push for perfect. Your brain tells you “Look at how effective your perfectionism has been in your professional life! Why don’t we try to apply that to your sleep routine and training plan and love life and house cleanliness and toenails?” One solution I learned about this week is Deliberate Deoptimisation. Purposefully letting areas which could be dialled in further fall by the wayside in order to give your brain capacity to focus on the ones that really matter. Focusing on your pounds, not everyone else’s pennies. Sure, you could have 5 credit cards with special cashback bonuses and capture all the points for your air miles, but given that you’re already close to capacity on Things To Give A Shit About, is it wise to add yet another to the list? Sure, your intra-workout nutrition could probably be dialled in more with some pre-digested grass-fed whey & dextrose, but what if this takes your energy away from the key area of just hitting the gym 5 times this week? Sure you could spend all day watching the stock market instead of just investing in an Index Fund but how much damage will this new candle-graph-addiction do to your relationship? Oliver Burkeman inspired me with a thought recently: Question: “How much should you care about things?”
Answer: I’m unsure exactly but I know that it’s not “the absolute maximum amount, all the time, for everything”.
Not everything is a life or death situation. And even if you know this cognitively, you still need to stop reflexively behaving like it is. Deliberately letting go of certain areas is a good way to give overthinkers like us more space to regain some sanity. MODERN WISDOMI do a podcast which has had 550 million+ downloads. You should subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. This week’s upcoming episodes: Monday. Thursday. Saturday. THINGS I'VE LEARNED1. 1. Contrary to popular opinion, people aren’t working longer hours these days than they did in the past. 2. Are millennials less wealthy than baby boomers were at the same age, as we often hear? 3. In the wake of Islamist terrorist attacks, people often worry about anti-Muslim backlash. 4. According to conventional wisdom, European colonialists drew up African national borders thoughtlessly and arbitrarily. 5. Contrary to the common belief that the rich don’t pay any taxes, the wealthiest 1% of Americans now pay nearly half of all income taxes, and more than the bottom 95% put together. 6. Many believe that global inequality is rapidly increasing: Rich countries are getting richer, while poor ones are getting poorer. —huge h/t Steve Stewart-Williams 2. Prior to the emergence of modern medicine, the average mortality rate was roughly 25% for infants and 40–50% for children across human evolution. That is, nearly half of our would-be ancestors did not survive to reproductive age. 3. “If you invite 40 girls it’s a party. LIFE HACKLegendary Foods Sweet Protein Treats. I still can’t believe that these things exist. 20g of protein in a protein pastry that tastes like a Pop Tart. Or a Cinnamon Roll. With less than 4g net carbs. I’ve been in love with these for over a year now. Basically the ultimate hack to beat a sweet tooth and get more protein in at the same time. Get 10% off with MODERNWISDOM. Shop Legendary Foods. (US only atm - sorry) Big love, Try my productivity drink Neutonic. PS |
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3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, Come see me live in NYC, Boston, Denver, Austin, Salt Lake City & Chicago - https://chriswilliamson.live Here are some rules about overthinking: You can’t think your way out of a feeling problem. Overthinking is underfeeling. Trying to think your way into feeling emotions is like trying to drink your way sober. Trying to think your way out of overthinking is like trying to sniff your way out of a cocaine addiction. “Overthinking invents more problems than it...
3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, The Modern Wisdom Reading List Vol. 2. It’s happening. I finally finished it. This one took me so much time to put together, I really hope you like it. Goes live to the public this Wednesday 2nd July. You guys will get access before anyone else though, just check your email inbox this Tuesday 💜 Anyway, here’s 6 rules about productivity: 1. Your life does not need to be easier. It needs to be simpler. Your system is designed to handle stress and challenge but not...
3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, Brand new Neutonic Focus Blend flavour just dropped. Limited Edition Watermelon Mint stick packs. Get them before they're sold out. Anyway, onto what I’ve been thinking about this week… “It is a supremely cruel thing to have your mind conjure a desire which it is functionally unable to realise.” — Max Barry This describes a special category of problem that I think about quite often. Person A has the talent to become successful but doesn’t have the resilience to...