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The question “What makes a woman attractive?” is a unique type of framing known as a Milgram Question.

In these situations, the social penalty for an unflattering answer is much higher than the reward for telling the truth.

Named after the famous Milgram psychology experiment where electric shocks were administered for wrong answers.

Because of this, we simply can’t trust the answers we receive, even if they’re coming from friends.

Other famous Milgram Questions that similarly back you into a corner:

“When did you stop beating your wife?”

“Does your dad know you’re gay?”

“Why are white people/men/heterosexuals so ignorant to racism/misogyny/homophobia?”

Any conventional answer to the question confirms its assumption.

You are le trapped.

It’s kind of like an ascended version of a Kafka Trap - a fallacy where if someone denies being X it is taken as evidence that the person is X since someone who is X would deny being X.

If someone is accused of something, and if they defend themselves then it's considered proof of their guilt.

It lumps together people who genuinely are not guilty of a perceived offence in with people who have committed the perceived offence and are trying to escape punishment.

To escape the trap you need to call out the question.

But in practice you don’t see this type of situation happen much, it’s really just a rhetorical gimmick.

The most important and common type of trick question sounds more like “Do you love Big Brother?”

It’s a question where an unacceptable answer, regardless of whether it’s true or false, will be punished, and the punishment is greater than the reward for a true answer.

Some Milgram Questions are intended as genuine questions.

But often they only pretend to be a query on the semantic content of the words.

The question “Do you love Big Brother” is actually asking “Do you submit to my power?” Or more generally, “Will you agree with me, or suffer the consequences?”

— h/t J. Sanilac & Gurwinder Bhogal

MODERN WISDOM

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This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Tom Segura - a deep dive on confidence, self-esteem, ozempic, fitness, Unteachable Lessons, true crime, dating, social media and more.

Thursday.
Tracy Vaillancourt - a fantastic evidence-based breakdown of childhood bullying. Why does it happen, what interventions work, how does it affect victims and bullies in later life? So good.

Saturday.
Rick Hanson - The neurobiology of happiness. What is happiness at a structural level in the brain and how can you literally train your brain to build itself more positively. One of the most important episodes I’ve done.

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

1.
​Marriage matters.

“Marital quality is, far and away, the top predictor of life satisfaction in America.

Specifically, the odds that men and women say they are ‘very happy’ with their lives are a staggering 545% higher for those who are very happily married, compared to peers who are not married or who are less than very happy in their marriages.

When it comes to predicting overall happiness, a good marriage is far more important than how much education you get, how much money you make, how often you have sex, and, yes, even how satisfied you are with your work.” — Brad Wilcox

2.
​Adactylidium live the least dialled lives ever.

Adactylidium is a genus of mites known for its unusual life cycle.

An impregnated female mite feeds upon a single egg of a thrips, rapidly growing five to eight female offspring and one male in her body.

The single male mite mates with all his sisters when they are still inside their mother.

The new females, now impregnated, eat their way out of their mother's body so that they can emerge to find new thrips eggs, killing their mother in the process (though the mother may be only 4 days old at the time), starting the cycle again.

The male emerges as well, but does not look for food or new mates, and dies after a few hours.

3.
​Weed Takes the Lead Over Booze

“In the U.S., there are now more daily or near daily marijuana users than daily or near daily alcohol users. Quite a cultural shift, I’d say.” — Rob Henderson

LIFE HACK

Did you feel motivated watching the Super Bowl last night?

You’ve just seen elite athletes at the peak of their preparation and performance leave everything on the line.

Even if you’re not an athlete, this sensation is open to you too.

You’d be amazed at how much progress and satisfaction can be achieved simply by dedicating yourself to one thing, consistently, for a few years.

The bar is set very low.

Go and step over it.
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Big love,
Chris x

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