3MM: Man-Hating, Decisions & Romance


3 MINUTE MONDAY

Hi friend,

One of the best questions to ask yourself when faced with a decision is “what would you tomorrow want you today to do?”

This has been something I’ve relied on for years to help give me perspective and make better choices.

It rips you out of the moment.

It stops you from relying so heavily on the confused chemical signals coming from your body and instead gives you a bit more distance.

It depersonalises the decision and helps you to treat yourself like a friend you’re responsible for helping.

It forces you to optimise for long-term thinking rather than immediate gratification.

It reminds you that ultimately decisions aren’t being made for you now, they’re being made for you in 24 hours, and 24 days, and 24 months.

Our decisions are investments we make into our future, and the more ruminative and deep of a thinker you are, the more you need to make decisions for your future self, not yourself now.

Optimising to gratify your desires in the moment at the expense of the way you feel and the story you tell yourself about yourself in the future is rarely a good deal.

You live with the story of your decisions for far longer than the impact of them.

So choose wisely.

We don’t have crystal balls to see the future, but this is about as close of a tool to clairvoyance as I can think of.

In fact, I can’t think of a single decision which would be worse if I actually did what I wished I’d done 24 hours later.

So yeah, try to be kind to your 24-hour-you, they’re the one who has to deal with whatever you do today.

MODERN WISDOM

I do a podcast where I pretend to have a British accent.

This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Richard Reeves - does the Left care about masculinity, is feminism recognising problems of boys & men, and why does Richard think that Helen Andrews’ Great Feminisation Theory is codswallop? Listen now on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

Thursday.
Oz Pearlman - the world’s #1 mentalist comes into the studio and blows my mind with tricks that I can’t explain. Also explains how to detect liars, and negotiate better.

Saturday.
Andy Stumpf - hard AF Navy SEAL on the state of modern warfare, technology’s impact on the battlefield, whether AI will change soldiers, how to survive Hell Week and much more.

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

1.
Women feel much more negatively towards young men than young men feel about them.

72% of men have a positive view of women.

50% of women have a neutral or negative view of men.

21% of women have an actively negative view of men.

Only 7% of men feel the same.

For all the talk about manosphere-inspired misogyny, 3x more women hold a negative view of men than men hold of women. — h/t The New Statesman

2.
Your entire life will be enhanced or broken by the partner you choose.

“Romantic discernment is a basic form of preventative healthcare that everyone should practice.”

3.
You are your habits.

“Don’t practise what you do not want to become.” — Jordan Peterson

LIFE HACK

Chase & Status’ Boiler Room Set.

Absolute fire.

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