3MM: Churchill, Platonic Guys & Adults


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Anyway, onto what I’ve been thinking about…

In September 1893, Churchill was admitted, on his third attempt, to the Sandhurst military college.

He wrote to his father, “I was so glad to be able to send you the good news on Thursday.”

His father, a former Chancellor of the Exchequer and leader of the House of Commons, wrote back a week later:

“You should be ashamed of your slovenly, happy-go-lucky, harum, scarum style of work.
Never have I received a really good report of your conduct from any headmaster or tutor.
Always behind, incessant complaints of a total want of application to your work.
You have failed to get into the 60th Rifles, the finest regiment in the army.
You have imposed on me an extra charge of some 200 pounds a year.
Do not think that I am going to take the trouble of writing you long letters after every failure you commit and undergo.
I no longer attach the slightest weight to anything you may say.
If you cannot prevent yourself from leading the idle, useless, unprofitable life you have had during your school days, you will become a mere social wastrel, one of the hundreds of public school failures, and you will degenerate into a shabby, unhappy and futile existence.
You will have to bear all the blame for such misfortunes.
Your mother sends her love.”

Churchill was 19.

This story hurts to read.

I don’t know the inner texture of Churchill’s mind but I’d bet that even after defeating Nazi Germany and winning WWII he probably still didn’t feel good enough.

What is the point of success if there’s no satisfaction in the succeeding?

Beware of envying successful humans.

The price you would need to pay to be the people you admire is often one you would not foot the bill for.

MODERN WISDOM

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This week’s upcoming episodes:

Monday.
Joe Lonsdale - what does the future of warfare look like? Is everyone going to fire rockets from space? Is the education system fixable? Do we need to worry about drones?

Thursday.
Crappy Childhood Fairy - a great breakdown of the psychological condition “Limerence” which I only recently learned about. Imagine a crush on steroids. Harrowing and fascinating.

Saturday.
Alex Hutchinson - how can we become more exploratory and take more risks in our daily lives? Using examples from history’s greatest explorers and innovators.

THINGS I'VE LEARNED

1.
Nearly half of your guy friends are trying to sleep with you.

William Costello polled 527 heterosexual/bisexual people.

“Are opposite-sex friendships ever truly platonic?”

81% of women said yes.

Only 58% of men said yes.

Women were 3× more likely than men to say their friendship was purely platonic.

2.
Neediness is when you place a higher priority on what others think of you than what you think of yourself.

“Every time you show up as someone else to please another person you’re rejecting yourself.” — Joe Hudson

3.
Adults don’t exist.

“Steve Jobs? Delayed 9 months of medical treatment of pancreatic cancer to try a carrot juice diet and acupuncture.

Mozart? Overspent his income, lived miserably in mountains of debt and regularly wrote letters to friends begging for money.

Friedrich Nietzsche? Lost his virginity in a brothel and caught syphilis. He only saw his work sell 300 copies in his lifetime.

Martin Luther King? Had extra-marital affairs with over 40 different women including spending his last night alive with 2 women and physically attacking another.

Isaac Newton? Spent 30 years of his life writing 1 million words on the pseudoscience of alchemy. (Hidden for years by his heirs because they were too embarrassed to publish it)

Don't put any adult on a pedestal.

Kill your gurus.

A more useful belief: The "adults" aren't going to save you they don't even exist.” — George Mack

LIFE HACK

Drive without music or a podcast on.

Revolutionary I know.

But it’s a great time to think through problems and reflect while not feeling like you’re doing absolutely nothing.

Big love,
Chris x

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